I’ve been reading through ‘Every Woman’s Battle’ for the past few weeks and I gotta say. I’ve learned a TON. I can’t say that I agree with everything in the book, but I sure have figured out some things that have been bugging me and kicking me in the butt for quite some time.
Facebook can be good sometimes, but other times it can rear it’s nasty face and uncover emotions I didn’t even know were still there. This happened to me the other day and I had to take a minute to side step and get myself together. Thankfully, I have wonderful friends in my life whom I can call and process through these things with and I did just that.
After some processing and reading in my book, I came to a revelation. I’ve forgiven those who have hurt me in past relationships, I’ve asked God for his forgiveness, but I have never forgiven myself for my actions. God justifies our sins “just-as-if-I’d” never done it and he STILL loves us. I believe this whole heartedly, but I sure do have a hard time wrapping my brain around that one sometimes. Our past affects so much of what we do and who we are and figuring out that I need to let go, move forward and forgive myself was a big step.
Did you know that unforgiveness can cause side effects such as; anxiety, depression, mistrust, poor self-esteem, anger, hatred, racing heart, high blood pressure, increased risk of cancer, increased risk of heart attack by 500%, weak immune system…and that’s just to name a few!
Last nite I surrendered my pain and my guilt for my past behaviors and I am making moves in the right direction. Forgiving myself is not easy and sometimes I feel as though I am being punished for my past mistakes. But I KNOW I am forgiven and justified. I know this won’t be an overnite thing and it will take some time but I’ve recognized and pinpointed the problem, after all that’s the first step right?